Online Sex Therapy & Intimacy Counseling for Couples & Individuals | Dr. Danielle Armour
Online Sex Therapy & Psychotherapy in: Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Virginia & Vermont
Intimacy Coaching & Consultation: Worldwide
I’m a holistic & liberating psychotherapist, clinical sexologist & AASECT certified sex therapist. I work with all beings in all relationships to cultivate intimacy, connection, & sexual wellness.
Danielle Armour, Ph.D., LICSW, LCSW, RYT, CST
Therapeutic Expertise
Low Desire & Libido Disconnects
Low desire isn't a personal failure, and it isn't a missing light switch. Whether you have a vulva or a penis, when life gets overwhelming, your nervous system throws on the emergency brakes. Your body will choose survival over getting turned on every single time. Stop waiting around for spontaneous desire to magically strike. We’ll look under the hood at your unique "brakes" and "accelerators," dismantle the pressure, and retrain your system so desire can show up naturally, on your terms.
Orgasm & Performance Challenges
If reaching climax feels like running a marathon inside your own head, or if it happens way too fast and leaves you stressed, you're trapped in spectator mode. Whether you have a vulva and are struggling with an elusive release or have a penis navigating premature ejaculation or erectile pressure, the physiological root is often the same: performance anxiety, goal-oriented pressure, and a fight-or-flight nervous system. We drop the finish-line mentality and use body-based tools and sensory retraining to quiet the mental noise, lower the anxiety, and put you back in control of your pleasure and pacing.
Trauma Healing & Body Reclamation
Trauma and chronic stress don't sit quietly in your thoughts—they lock up in your tissues, posture, and pelvic floor, regardless of your anatomy. When your body is on high alert, intimacy feels unsafe, tense, or completely numbing. We don't just talk about the past; we work directly with the body. Using somatics and gentle regulation, we untangle stored tension so you can feel safe, present, and at home in your own skin.
Relational Intimacy & Erotic Communication
Nobody naturally knows how to talk about sex; we inherit clunky scripts or unrealistic expectations (thanks, porn) that fail us in real life. I skip the generic, surface-level advice to help you and your partner(s) get radically clear about what you actually want. We’ll talk consent without the awkwardness, and build a real, shared language that bridges emotional safety with actual erotic charge.
Anxiety, Perfectionism & Erotic Self-Esteem
You can’t overthink your way into arousal. A loud inner critic, body doubt, and chronic perfectionism pull you out of the present moment and lock your system in fight-or-flight. I help clients of all genders break the anxiety loop. We’ll target it from both top-down psychological insight and bottom-up nervous system regulation. When we quiet the mental chatter and settle your body's alarm response, your confidence, self-worth, and capacity for real pleasure take back the wheel.
Sexual Pain & Pelvic Discomfort (Vaginismus, Dyspareunia & Vulvodynia)
When sex becomes something you have to brace for, pleasure disappears before you even start. If you're dealing with pelvic pain, burning, or muscle clamping, your body has linked intimacy with self-defense. Trying to tough it out or "just relax" only reinforces the cycle. We work from the inside out to break that fear-pain feedback loop, helping your system unlearn the urge to guard so you can actually enjoy being in your body again.
Purity Culture, Religious Trauma & Sexual Shame
If you grew up being told sex was dirty, dangerous, or shameful, those messages don't magically vanish when you reach adulthood, enter a new relationship, or get married. They show up as deep pelvic tension, dread, performance anxiety, and guilt. I specialize in de-programming religious shame and purity culture conditioning for all genders. We will separate your upbringing from your actual values so you can step into a sexual identity that feels safe, joyful, and yours.
Hormonal Shifts & Life Transition Sexual Wellness
Hormonal shifts fundamentally alter blood flow, arousal, and body confidence. Whether you're navigating postpartum changes, perimenopause, menopause, or low testosterone and age-related vitality shifts, you don't have to just "deal with it". I pair evidence-based sexual health insights with somatic tools to help you adapt to your changing body and reclaim a real, vibrant connection to your sexuality.
Outercourse & Sex-Positive Pleasure Frameworks
Sex is so much more than intercourse—and expanding your options doesn't mean giving up what already works for you. If penetration is your favorite part of sex, great! But when it's treated as the only thing that counts, it creates misunderstandings and a major disconnect. I teach inclusive, pleasure-first frameworks and outercourse practices that take the rush off intimacy. By adding more tools to your sensual repertoire, we take away the goal-oriented stress and unlock deeper, full-bodied connection—however you and your partner(s) best enjoy it.
I welcome you exactly as you are—whatever identities you hold, whoever you love, however you connect in relationships, or the curiosities you carry. My role is to support you and your partner through both the challenges and the joys of your sexual and relational journey. Let’s unpack the shame associated with sex. Let’s process trauma that is keeping you from pleasure. I strive to create a sense of safety for all.
An Invitation:
Will you dare greatly with me?
Daring greatly means the courage to BE VULNERABLE. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.
—Brene Brown
Clinical Specialties & Sexual Health Diagnoses Treated
As a Doctor of Clinical Sexology and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I provide specialized, evidence-based therapy for a wide range of sexual concerns, physical discomforts, and relational challenges.
Whether you are seeking support individually or as a couple, I offer compassionate, non-judgmental care for the following conditions and diagnoses:
Sexual Pain & Physical Discomfort
Vaginismus & Involuntary Pelvic Tightness: Working through pelvic muscle constriction, fear of penetration, and discomfort during intercourse or pelvic exams.
Dyspareunia (Painful Intercourse): Addressing unexplained physical pain, burning, or aching before, during, or after sexual activity.
Vulvodynia & Pelvic Floor Tension: Navigating chronic vulvar discomfort and the anxiety or fear that often accompanies physical pain.
Desire, Arousal & Orgasm Concerns
Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) & Low Libido: Addressing sudden or long-term drops in sexual desire, interest, or motivation in individuals and long-term partnerships.
Desire Discrepancy & Drive Mismatches: Helping couples navigate conflicting sex drives, mismatched erotic preferences, and frequency expectations without blame or resentment.
Anorgasmia & Delayed Orgasm: Supporting individuals who experience difficulty achieving orgasm or an inability to reach climax during solo or partnered sex.
Erectile Anxiety & Performance Pressure: Overcoming anxiety-driven erectile difficulties, arousal instability, and the habit of "spectatoring" (over-thinking during intimate moments).
Premature or Delayed Ejaculation: Developing somatic control, reducing performance stress, and building confidence in partnered intimacy.
Psychological, Relational & Cultural Factors
Religious & Cultural Deconditioning (Purity Culture Trauma): Unlearning ingrained guilt, shame, and moral conditioning surrounding sex, pleasure, and body autonomy.
Sexual Avoidance & Intimacy Phobia: Working through fear of emotional or physical closeness following life transitions, relationship disruptions, or past medical/sexual trauma.
Body Image & Sexual Confidence: Reclaiming body autonomy, self-esteem, and sensual comfort in your skin.
Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) & Kink-Affirming Care: Navigating open relationships, polyamory, ethical boundaries, and alternative lifestyles in a safe, affirming therapeutic space.